Breaking up… In and email

So remember how in my last post I was making big decisions…..

Turns out its not that much of a decision.

I don’t even  get the chance to figure out how not burn bridges…

As of January 26….my trainer broke up with me, IN AN E-MAIL

Simply because I’d asked, due to our  conflicting schedules (I didn’t even mention her lack of showing up) that I be given leeway on lessons for a few months until work got back to normal. (Someone quit so I’m currently covering two departments…Joy!) Not, not take them. But rather pay as I go instead of for the month.


So many things about the break up  e-mail were bull-shit….

-First of all it started out “‘m sorry to hear about your crazy schedule and resulting stress”. (Bull-shit and you are about to add to it. And yes she forgot the I in I’m)

-Then it said that she’s confirming my 30 day notice…..(what? I never said anything about wanting to leave…. )

-The owner(who is not the trainer in question) doesn’t want to run a boarding barn (pretty sure as long as board is paid he could care less who’s there)

-Boarding is contingent on being in her lesson program at least one lesson a week (tell that to the ten + “boarders” I know that don’t take lessons)

-The fact that she’s not the owner and felt she had the right to throw me out (there’s quite a few “boarders” at the barn that aren’t part of her program)

But I guess the worst part of the whole thing was that I realized the only language she spoke was money.

I get that its a business …

But I’ve done so many “extras” (like medicating her horse on Christmas, building a tack room…)

Without thanks…. and obviously they were worth nothing… Even the fact that I’ve known her 8 years in all her barns (talk about barn hopping) AND  she invited me to her wedding apparently were not important facts in the decision.


More than that it meant she never believed in me. That everything was a lie.

She’d just been looking for a way to get rid of me because I wasn’t in full training.  Didn’t spill $$$ as I got out of the car.

And she couldn’t even say it to my face… (In fact she’s been avoiding me since)

BUT the silver lining is that the e-mail made my decision crystal clear.

I mean I could fight the “eviction” because really, she can’t kick me out. It’s not her barn.

The owner would let me stay.


But there’s no point in staying in that type of situation. Somewhere you aren’t wanted or valued.

She served her purpose.

Fixed Dancer’s “problem”….now its time to move on.


Dancer will be happily in his new home at the end of the month.

And even better. It seems I will have a barn family again. Everyone at this new barn is really nice.  Someone once told me barn families are important. I agree.

Everything happens for a reason….right?



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